If I am looking for a relationship to make me happy, to give me what I won't give myself, I am almost certainly headed for disapointment.
If I am unable to do these things for myself, no other person will ever be able to give me enough to ensure I have a lasting sense of well-being. That just does not come from the outside. Only I can truly do that for myself.
[...from Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery by Cheri Huber, pg. 183]