A friend asked if I was making any resolutions for the new year. My response? I don't do those. If I'm not going to do something on August 17th, I'm not going to be more inclined to do it on January 2nd.
Instead, I do something Iyanla Vanzant calls self accounting. I look at the things I want to be doing or need to be doing with more consistency for myself and I tally my score, so to speak. At the end of the day, I take note of which things I did during my day and which I did not attempt. I make it visible and put it in this cool journaling software I use called Life Journal where you can create something called a Daily Pulse entry and graph but you don't have to be that much of a nerd if you want to try it out... a pen, piece of paper and a refridgerator magnet will do.
I don't have anything against resolutions, and I don't think there is anything wrong with making a few. But the thing about resolutions is we usually tend to focus our attention on what we think we should do instead of what we are realistically going to do. My 2 cents worth on this is just to be nice to yourself this year. Don't guilt yourself by making a long list of shoulds that you won't (or can't) tackle.
What is self accounting? In Tapping the Power Within, Iyanla provides a short list of questions to ask yourself at the end of the day but we can certainly modify these to meet our personal needs:
Who did I serve today?
Who did I help today without asking for payment?
Who did I share my knowledge with today?
Did I speek consciously today?
Did I mean what I said today?
Did I keep the agreements I made today with myself?
Did I keep the agreements I made today with others?
Whether you are deciding to bring more awareness to your precepts practice or want a way to track your commitments with yourself, this is a tool that could work.
Well, whoever and wherever you are... Happy New Year. Make 2007 be a year of strength, resolve and fulfilled dreams.