I'm still continuing my study on Dharma for Relationships. Last weekend, I uncovered a couple of interesting posts, threads and articles:
On the Dharma Realm Buddhist Youth (DRBY) website, there is an interesting thread about love and relationships. Some questions are raised:
Can there be unconditional love in a romantic relationship? Should I have expectations in a romantic relationship? Is sexual desire bad in a romantic relationship? Being single= Being lonely and bored?
Some cogent points were made:
Honesty is the most fundamental quality to a meaningful relationship...if you are dishonest even once, you will change the nature of this relationship completely...from something totally genuine and true to manipulation.
A meaningful relationship can only come from two truely free people who are willing to give each other the freedom to choose to be with each other at every moment. They are not bound by desire, need, boredom, or self projections (expectations).
A meaningful relationship is very genuine and compassionate. You will always look out for the best interest of your partner instead of yourself.
Having standards does not mean having expectations. Abandon expectations.
It's an interesting conversation. Check it out...
There's also this great Dharma talk out there... Jason mentioned it in a comment to a previous entry. It was deliverd at a wedding presided over by Sensei James Ishmael Ford. Good stuff.
And finally, there's this UrbanDharma.org Newsletter from March 2004 on Love in Buddhism.
I don't have any commentary on these things today... Just thought I'd share.